I've heard about sugar daddies before. I don't live under a rock. All in all, if you don't really believe in love, it doesn't seem like a such a bad idea. Attach yourself to a man who has lots of money. Date him. Marry him. Whatever. Live incredibly rich. If all relationships fail or romantic feelings fizzle and you're just putting up with each other anyways, why not do something that's going to benefit yourself?
But to turn it into a business. A website that advertises either your wealth or your body. This I had never heard of. I watched a news report and subsequently read an article on ABC about it. Apparently there's TONS of websites that offer this type of service. And a lot of the girls who sign up to be the sugar babies are girls my age or a little younger...college-aged girls trying to find someone to fund their education.
There's a ton of reasons women sign up for these sites. I'm a very accepting person, but today I'm going to turn on the judgey part of my brain and play a game. I'm going to decide if the people who sign up for this are in it for love (to find love...like a lot of dating websites attempt to do) or prostitution. Please argue with me about these! I want to hear your opinions so badly! All of these examples are from the reporting I heard/read.
Situation #1: College-aged girl joins the site. Looking for someone to help pay rent and tuition.
Situation #2: Incredibly rich man, loves younger women. Has a ton of money. Likes sex a lot. Advertises on the site.
Situation #3: Totally nerdy guy. Can't find love anywhere (I'm guessing he's not too great looking or has really high standards for what his women should look like.) He's tried other dating sites. Realizes he's got to set himself apart from all these other nerdy guys and the thing that does that is his money. So he sets up a profile on this website.
The biggest reason I say this is
that he found a wife out of it. And
I'm assuming he's faithful.
Situation #4: Poor woman. Not a student or anything. But she decides she wants a sugar daddy to help her get by. She finds one on the website. He helps her pay bills etc. while they talk and get to know each other, but they're never intimate before they part ways.
(love.) mixed with a little bit of PROSTITUTION!!!
Her motives were that of a lady of the night.
But the way the relationship worked out...
I respect them both for that. I think the daddy
deserves more credit here than the baby.
I don't blame women who do this. But for some reason it seems so much dirtier to me on a website than in real life. I also feel like it's degrading to your gender. Like saying, "I need a man to help me get through school," instead of saying, "I'm a strong, intelligent woman, and I'm going to empower myself." (Yes, those are the kind of things I walk around telling myself all the time.) : P
I also believe in love. Vday haters....start the debate. I didn't used to. But I do now. That I've found it. But I can see the cynicism about it that leads to these types of arrangements. I would never become a Sugar Baby.
But would you?